But there is, it causes problems and puts unproportionaly much pressure on the other side. Aka the other side needs to do the initiating 99% of the times, which creates the feeling of not being wanted. Coupled with the constant rejection as well isn’t that good on self esteem either.
Like in relationships posts which get more popular, there are always guys who complain how they’re tired from constantly initiating and don’t feel wanted, which leads to them just giving up all together.
Yes i kinda dislike it as it is a source of problems and just accepting it wouldn’t really solve any issues.
Sadly I’ve been trying to fix it for years, problems probably started or at least become noticable over a decade ago. By now i have already exhausted approved medical and physical means in trying to fix it, even started replacement therapy eventually as test levels were on the low end even despite doing as much as possible to boost those.
While it has had rather good outcome on overall physical and mental health, it hasn’t had any effect on libido.
Haven’t yet delved into balck market or anabolic steroids territory, yet and of course therapy is still left, but that’s rather expensive and social stigma is kinda strong on that subject. Especially for a guy who seemingly shouldn’t have any issues regarding it.
Fair, reactively getting turned on kinda fits under outside influence part. Though cant tell anything about the bond/connection aspect, as thats way too vague and complicated for me.
Well yeah, little bit of that too. That’s what probably makes it more confusing.
Others are saying grey or ace. Why demi then?
Damnit, why i always circle back to that one.
Under what does someone fall, who regularly forgets that sex exists, immune to flirting, needs external reminders/influence and effort to get in to the mood, cant wrap their head around attraction at all and completely hates the hand their dealt with?
Quoting THE GOD EMPEROR OF MANKIND:
“Guys im not a god, just a man”
I’ll go and see whos knocking on my door now.
Though joking aside, yeah that was the issue. He was just human. Powerful one, but still a human.
They had a based designer, but yeah.
That’s employers problem, it’s an issue with their devices.
But how come?
Supporting people is rather easy actually. Being compassionate, caring and listening the other person and being supportive is generally rather easy and oftentimes just words are enough to encourage or console them. That stuff is so easy it can be even faked on autopilot without any effort.
But at the other hand, taking advantage of others/exploiting them just feels bad and even if it’s possible to get used to it. It’s kinda exhausting to constantly look over ones shoulder for the inevitable repercussions from the person being exploited and to avoid being exploited by anyone else?
Even if taken from the perspective of trying to exploit people. Helping them become better is a more profitable long term investment.
At the end of the day, yes we are.
Return to monkey.
I’d say it’s the exact same principle, just scaled up.
From personal boundaries and home rules, which are set up by each individual themselves. To HOA or apartment complex equivalents boundaries and rules which are set up by democratic voting(hopefully). To a district or state rules and boundaries to country to unions.
Well borders are rather useful and good. Everyone has boundaries with other people, it’s even kinda mandatory for mental well-being. Everyone has borders with their home. Those are even legally enforceable.
I’m fairly sure you’d be rather pissed off if i would randomly walk into your home and started harassing you.
I apologize in advance if it gets too depressive or over sharing. I’ve noticed over the years that just writing things down can be kinda helpful in at least articulating and getting a better understanding of my own mental processes.
Fair, yeah i wouldn’t hate another individual over something that simple aka gay man not wanting to fuck woman. It’s rather easy to accept other individuals than oneself. It’s so much more easier to hate oneself and beat oneself up, even if it’s completely irrational. It’s something that can be done, even if detrimental, but it gives at least some form of an illusion over having control over it.
Like not remembering to initiate more or being too tired and not pushing through it or forgetting actions that make the partner feel wanted or the equipment being already fully primed and ready to go, but the mind not being there. If i fail those, it’s my fault. I have to do better and try harder. Maybe if i keep searching for long enough i will eventually find a cure or a fix.
Accepting asexuality seems like giving up without a fight, like surrendering.
While love and intimacy might be rather complicated concepts for me, as I’ve understood yes those are possible without sex, but once again from a practical perspective overwhelming majority of people do see sex as the main distinction between friendship and a relationship. So the lack of drive or desire is going to be a rather huge disadvantage.
Yes i know and been told that I’m not supposed to “date” half the population, so the disadvantage shouldnt matter, but i never did manage to figure out what’s supposed to be the driving force beyond practicality then.
On the broader complaints part. Fair, probably a bad example as i tried to show the effect of not feeling wanted and the burden of being the one who disproportionately has to initiate, while taking it from a too biased perspective and not properly knowing the background details, though it still does hit rather close to home being at the opposite end of it.